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the cutest little psycho hose beast

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fawn-aoba asked: do you dislike / not care about non binary littles and caregivers ?

ddlgdoodles:

No, neither of those statements are true despite the gossip.

I’m going to use this post as a reference to any other future messages I get so I don’t have to repeat myself.

Let’s start of with the trans topic:

I have a lot of wonderful and very dear friends who are trans: I have one that I went to middle school with that went from being ftm, I have another that is just beginning to transition from mtf who I help out, and I have another who is genderqueer. I don’t discriminate. I have never and would never harass, bully, attack a trans person (or any person) because of who they are or what they’re feeling.

What I do have a problem with is the band wagon movement on Tumblr. Look around enough and you’ll come across teens hopping into because it’s what’s in. People strive to fit into categories and the trans community is becoming one. My problem with this is that you have a lot of teens, mainly girls, who are completely comfortable in their body yet use the trans card to make themselves seem special and oppressed. They take away from the fight that people who experience gender dysphoria and work hard to gain respect and have people acknowledge that what they feel is real.

There have been studies on transsexual individuals to determine what causes the dysphoria and from what I’ve read it ranges from abnormalities in the brain, hormones, and so on. However, I’ve had a hard time finding any studies or experiments on non-binary folks and how gender can flip-flop at will. Maybe I’m looking in the wrong spots or not searching the right things, and if someone has anything like that, I’d be more than happy to read it.

Caregivers:

Again, I don’t dislike or not care about Caregivers, I just don’t find it appropriate to use with my dynamic and overall, I feel it adds confusion as I’ve stated and explained before.

CG/l was originally the all inclusive term for DD/lg, thought up around last year by some folks on Tumblr and it caught on. I’m all for an all-inclusive title for the dynamic, but as of now, I feel that DD/lg works for me. It describes my dynamic and I do see it as an all inclusive term and so do many others who have taken part in the dynamic for decades. As Daddy pointed out, you don’t hear Mistress whining that Master/slave excludes them. It’s common knowledge that Mistress is another form of a Master. In my eyes, Mommy is another form of Daddy. They both hold on to the same goals and roles, just that the titles are different due to sex or gender.

What I see now is that CG/l has become its own dynamic away from DD/lg. What makes DD/lg different (aside from gender-assigned titles) is that it’s a D/s dynamic and it clearly states it - Daddy Dom, whereas CG/l drops that. All Doms are caregivers in one way or another, not just Daddies and Mommies. A lot of people have argued with me that DD/lg doesn’t work for them because their caregiver is not a Dom, which means that the dynamic in their relationship is solely based on an ageplay lifestyle, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But this where it brings in confusion. Say a newbie little follows CG/l blogs that are not D/s and eventually they find a Daddy Dom (not just a Daddy) and someone gets hurt. The little had different expectations of what the dynamic holds than what the Daddy thought. This can lead to Daddies who mean well being called abusive due to the confusion between ageplay/CGl/DDlg.

I’ve also seen people message me saying that they don’t identify with DD/lg (and prefer CG/l) because they call their “Daddy”/caregiver a different title such as Sir, Dada, Papi, Papa, etc. I also call my Daddy a handful of different titles but I still identify with DD/lg because I see no reason to create separate dynamics for each name I call him.

All-in-all, it’s not a term that I’ll be using but you’re free to call your dynamic whatever you want. I shouldn’t be forced to use CG/l if I don’t want to, and you shouldn’t be forced to use DD/lg if you don’t want to.

Love this post and it sums up my feelings on DD/lg as well. Honestly, people on Tumblr are so incredibly nitpicky about labels.

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revam1ss:

spazztastikim:

comebackxkid:

dynastylnoire:

insidehishead:

some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys
porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 

Ahahahaha KISS HER THERE YOU WALNUT!<3

revam1ss:

spazztastikim:

comebackxkid:

dynastylnoire:

insidehishead:

some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys

porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 

Ahahahaha KISS HER THERE YOU WALNUT!


<3

(Source: biencorrect, via daddyboo-and-princessjess)

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DDLG TAG IS NOT FOR YOUR GROSS PORN

sasu-hiro-senpai:

lockedinsubmission:

Seriously, fuck off!

I go to the #ddlg tag looking for new blogs to follow from people who have a DD/lg dynamic, but 90% of what I see is disgusting generic porn (that doesn’t even have anything to do with any part of DD/lg) yet it’s tagged with everything from #big cock to #ddlg.

Seriously,…

Oh hey everyone, look, here’s the tag police.

Go fuck yourself.

I have been enlightened. I’m going to start tagging pictures of food and beach balls and airplanes as #ddlg because tags don’t matter.

It’s okay, you go on back to having a sad anti-feminist anti-fat blog and I’ll be over here being a fat feminist who knows how to tag things. <3

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DDLG TAG IS NOT FOR YOUR GROSS PORN

lockedinsubmission:

Seriously, fuck off!

I go to the #ddlg tag looking for new blogs to follow from people who have a DD/lg dynamic, but 90% of what I see is disgusting generic porn (that doesn’t even have anything to do with any part of DD/lg) yet it’s tagged with everything from #big cock to #ddlg.

Seriously,…

Ahahaha I lost 5 followers immediately after posting this!

If you think crying girls with rapey objectifying captions is a good thing to reblog, let alone somehow related to DDLG, why the fuck were you following me in the first place!? All of you get out, this is a house cleaning!

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DDLG TAG IS NOT FOR YOUR GROSS PORN

Seriously, fuck off!

I go to the #ddlg tag looking for new blogs to follow from people who have a DD/lg dynamic, but 90% of what I see is disgusting generic porn (that doesn’t even have anything to do with any part of DD/lg) yet it’s tagged with everything from #big cock to #ddlg.

Seriously, fuck off, DD/lg is not about your underage rape fetishes. Just because you see a girl who looks kinda sorta youngish and she’s having sex doesn’t mean it’s DD/lg, I mean seriously, wtf? Should we start tagging vanilla sex as BDSM because, hey, it’s vaguely related to sexual intercourse, pile it all on!

This post was prompted by my first result when I searched for #ddlg being a girl COVERED IN SEMEN with the caption “What your big fat tits were made for.” That is totally what a little wants to hear, thank you.

So many people blocked just from browsing that tag.

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Anonymous asked: Do you have any advice for women sort of "reading" male doms to tell which ones are trouble? Or just reading guys in general now that I think about it. Like any advice about early warning signs that a guy is dangerous? An older woman I know always said any guy that tries to give you stuff really early on he's looking for you to "owe" him and should be kept an eye on. I just ask because you seem like you're a really good judge of character and when a guy isn't on the up and up.

fullten:

justfuckitxxx:

fullten:

aisselectric:

fullten:

uhhh off the top of my head

  • Phallic centered, 100+ photos of his dick, mentions his dick, his dominance comes from his dick, he thinks he can ‘fix’ you with his dick, keeps sending photos of his dick, mentions his dick more then he mentions anything else 
  • Thinks your submissiveness is because you’re a woman, and therefore ‘natural’ so any forced sex or abuse is simply him putting you in your ‘natural’ place 
  • Has no hobbies or other interests, and doesn’t care about yours 
  • Demanding and impatient 
  • He’s simple, he just want to fuck you, he just want to feel important, he reeks of insecurity and is desperate, he needs you to act like he’s a king and a god, he needs his cock worshipped, he doesn’t care about your needs, he is stuck in this frantic, desperate need to stop the thoughts of worthlessness and rejection and he will force this on you because he is like a scared rabid animal stuck the corner, scared of more rejection, so he won’t hear it. 
  • Can’t just be a normal, interesting, person 
  • Back tracks and passive aggressive, he mentions something you don’t like and says something like ‘well I’m the dom and you’re just a sub-’ ‘haha, don’t take it so seriously-’ ‘you’ll like it ;), you’ll let me do what I want,’ ‘Well my last sub was a real sub, I guess you’re just a fake-‘ 
  • Expects things you’re not comfortable with, demands them, calls you ‘crazy’ and ‘typical’ 
  • Believes you owe him anything, no, you owe him nothing
  • Doesn’t fulfill his promises, but keeps promising, and the promises become more and more extravagant.
  • Brings up old subs a lot and compares you
  • Lots of compliments but very little action
  • He expects you to fit him completely, his opinions are your opinions, you have to believe what he believes, you have to like what he likes
  • Automatically assumes you are of lesser intellect and doesn’t listen to any of your opinions, ideals, and laughs off anything you say that doesn’t go with what he believes
  • Isn’t upfront with what he likes, expects, and who he is. Charming at first, but then demanding, insecure, and needs a constant ego boost from you.    
  • Calls all his past subs ‘crazy’ 
  • Isn’t sympathetic or empathic 
  • Doesn’t treat you like you’re an individual, surprised when you like things aren’t typical to your type, and ignores specific things that you like and goes with ‘well, all women like this-‘ 
  • Arguments become personal, debating turns into insulting, he refuses to respect your personal views 
  • His ambition is to one day, actually have ambition 
  • Believes that regardless, he’s better than you because you are a woman and he is a man 
  • Around friends he takes the side of his friends regardless of the situation and seems to be ‘beta’ around the ‘alpha’ male in the group 
  • Treats you like a trophy, always mentions appearance, or sexual prowess, but never mentions anything else you’ve accomplished 
  • rolls his eyes at anything ‘feminine’ and instantly sees it as vapid and a waste of time 
  • expects you to baby him, even as a dom, acts like your his mother in terms of care and coddling 
  • Catch him lying and he isn’t upfront about it but dances around the topic in hopes you’ll shut up about it 
  • Speaks badly of past ex’s, consistently 
  • threatens you in anyway, even if he laughs it off later 
  • thinks all men naturally have a highly sexual appetite and therefore are entitled to sex constantly, also thinks that view forgives his cheating because ‘he’s just a man,’ 
  • Any physical change that happens to you (loss of weight, hair cut) he feels entitled too and gets upset when you change you’re own body without his approval first 
  • Wants you to fit his ‘ideal’ woman even if it’s nothing like who you really are 
  • has too many fantasies about women that are all sexual with the women as props
  • has no real female friends 
  • doesn’t trust your male friends with no reason other than they are male 

uhh… this is really long now, so yeah, these are some ways to tell if a dom or a man is shit 

This really shook me to my core.

this is so applicable even to people who believe their relationship is “regular” 

Which is the most harmful, to believe that being abused is normal and ‘boys are just like that-‘ 

This is perfect, especially the phallic centric one. That is seriously the #1 sign of a shit Dom the majority of the time.

Other signs, for Tumblr Doms in particular, are if their blogs are just filled with like… really hardcore objectifying porn with awful rapey captions, like girls covered in semen and urine and crying, and the captions are all about how the bimbo learned her place or whatever. I can’t close a page fast enough when I see that.

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submissivedreamer:

bdsmsnark:

dommymcdommerson:

I don’t care if you’re in a d/s relationship with a punishment dynamic, unless you have explicitly and thoroughly negotiated this, deliberately withholding attention and affection from your partner to punish them is abuse.

And even if you have negotiated it, go ahead and analyze it, because that’s some pretty cruel shit.

Instant deal breaker for me. I can’t handle being ignored. I will have a breakdown, and also likely kick you to the curb for trying to ignore me as punishment.

Agree 100%. Punishment should never cause that type of psychological harm. 

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