No, neither of those statements are true despite the gossip.
I’m going to use this post as a reference to any other future messages I get so I don’t have to repeat myself.
Let’s start of with the trans topic:
I have a lot of wonderful and very dear friends who are trans: I have one that I went to middle school with that went from being ftm, I have another that is just beginning to transition from mtf who I help out, and I have another who is genderqueer. I don’t discriminate. I have never and would never harass, bully, attack a trans person (or any person) because of who they are or what they’re feeling.
What I do have a problem with is the band wagon movement on Tumblr. Look around enough and you’ll come across teens hopping into because it’s what’s in. People strive to fit into categories and the trans community is becoming one. My problem with this is that you have a lot of teens, mainly girls, who are completely comfortable in their body yet use the trans card to make themselves seem special and oppressed. They take away from the fight that people who experience gender dysphoria and work hard to gain respect and have people acknowledge that what they feel is real.
There have been studies on transsexual individuals to determine what causes the dysphoria and from what I’ve read it ranges from abnormalities in the brain, hormones, and so on. However, I’ve had a hard time finding any studies or experiments on non-binary folks and how gender can flip-flop at will. Maybe I’m looking in the wrong spots or not searching the right things, and if someone has anything like that, I’d be more than happy to read it.
Again, I don’t dislike or not care about Caregivers, I just don’t find it appropriate to use with my dynamic and overall, I feel it adds confusion as I’ve stated and explained before.
CG/l was originally the all inclusive term for DD/lg, thought up around last year by some folks on Tumblr and it caught on. I’m all for an all-inclusive title for the dynamic, but as of now, I feel that DD/lg works for me. It describes my dynamic and I do see it as an all inclusive term and so do many others who have taken part in the dynamic for decades. As Daddy pointed out, you don’t hear Mistress whining that Master/slave excludes them. It’s common knowledge that Mistress is another form of a Master. In my eyes, Mommy is another form of Daddy. They both hold on to the same goals and roles, just that the titles are different due to sex or gender.
What I see now is that CG/l has become its own dynamic away from DD/lg. What makes DD/lg different (aside from gender-assigned titles) is that it’s a D/s dynamic and it clearly states it - Daddy Dom, whereas CG/l drops that. All Doms are caregivers in one way or another, not just Daddies and Mommies. A lot of people have argued with me that DD/lg doesn’t work for them because their caregiver is not a Dom, which means that the dynamic in their relationship is solely based on an ageplay lifestyle, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But this where it brings in confusion. Say a newbie little follows CG/l blogs that are not D/s and eventually they find a Daddy Dom (not just a Daddy) and someone gets hurt. The little had different expectations of what the dynamic holds than what the Daddy thought. This can lead to Daddies who mean well being called abusive due to the confusion between ageplay/CGl/DDlg.
I’ve also seen people message me saying that they don’t identify with DD/lg (and prefer CG/l) because they call their “Daddy”/caregiver a different title such as Sir, Dada, Papi, Papa, etc. I also call my Daddy a handful of different titles but I still identify with DD/lg because I see no reason to create separate dynamics for each name I call him.
All-in-all, it’s not a term that I’ll be using but you’re free to call your dynamic whatever you want. I shouldn’t be forced to use CG/l if I don’t want to, and you shouldn’t be forced to use DD/lg if you don’t want to.
Love this post and it sums up my feelings on DD/lg as well. Honestly, people on Tumblr are so incredibly nitpicky about labels.