Locked in Submission

the cutest little psycho hose beast

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sexualchemistry:

leannthepotatoloverthings:

gothiccharmschool:

losertakesall:

ilikeprettyclothes:

fromcarouseltohair:

allyssumdays:

Everyone has rolls when they bend over. Everyone. Lets just get this out of the way right off the bat. In the last few months, I’ve had over 30 women ranging from rail thin to extra large naked in my bed and I would routinely ask them to hug their knees. You won’t believe this… ALL OF THEM HAD TUMMY ROLLS. Not one was exempt. Even my super fabulous professional model 6 foot tall and some amazing Katie had rolls. The stomach pictures turned into some of my favorite images from the project… so quit thinking they’re bad, and try accepting (dare I say embracing?) yours!When people say “you’re gorgeous”, believe them. I tend not to, and it’s a cryin’ shame. When people genuinely compliment you, it’s because they really see it. Try to not dismiss their perspective as wrong and assume that you know better. They see all of you. We see our flaws. Believe them.“Arm flab is embarrassing.” No its not, go fuck yourself. No, not you. The people who tell us that, silly.You’re not stunning despite your body. You’re stunning because of your body. There is a distinct difference. I grew up in a culture that would deem “unattractive” women as “special spirits”. A degrading categorization that implied that the only thing worthwhile was whatever was inside. Well, yeah. We are all much much more than our bodies, but our bodies are a beautiful part of us too. Beauty comes from the inside AND the outside.  I am of the firm belief that every person is beautiful, and so this leaves the inside to be the part that is the most telling when it comes to true “beauty”.A guy can pick you up off your feet, and it won’t break his back.  “Wait, whaaaaaa Jes? You’re full of shit.” Nope. This just happened to me for the first time in… six years? I’m considerably heavier than I was 6 years ago (like… 70 pounds heavier) and so when I ran up to my friend Eric for a hug and he picked me up with my heels in the air… it left me breathless. I had forgotten that it was possible; I had accepted a life void of being lifted. So exhilarating. Eric didn’t suffer any injuries and walked away unscathed.You don’t need to exercise every day in order to feel better about yourself. Many believe that someone who’s fat needs to exercise as much as possible in order to prove that they’re committed to becoming “less fat”. As if accepting one’s body as is would be a sin, and that’s just silly. Yes, exercising has wonderful physical and mental benefits, but you don’t owe it to anyone else to make an effort to change your body unless you wanna. You do not have to alter yourself to be okay. Period.You’re allowed to fall in love with yourself. I promise. This will be the scariest thing you will ever do, and that’s okay. It will also be the most amazing (albeit super gradual) experience you will ever have. It doesn’t make you narcissistic. It doesn’t make you vain. It is liberating in every form of the word.

It’s also okay to have days where you don’t love yourself. Read this. No really. Read it. And then realize that we’ve grown up learning and internalizing that we are not okay our entire life. For me, that’s 26 years of self-hate indoctrination and brainwashing.  It’s going to take a lot longer than you think to reverse this thinking, and it’s definitely not going to happen overnight. Allow yourself to have “weak” days. Cry, mourn, sob, yell, throw things. Whichever. Then get up, brush yourself off, give the media the finger, and move forward because you’re a warrior.Everyone’s boobs are uneven. If you have a lot of boobs, they might be way uneven.  Don’t stress. This is totally normal.There are people who prefer large ladies. And I mean all sizes of large. I thought that my best bet in life was to find a partner who accepted my fat. Pause. Give me a minute to hang my head and shake it at myself. Not only are there people who adore “thick” women, but a LOT of them who prefer it. This eventually ends up in an interesting territory which Marianne talks about here, but the point that I’m trying to make goes back to the “despite vs because of” argument. Here is what you need to know: you do NOT need to settle for a lover who is “okay” with your body. You have the right (and millions of opportunities) to find someone who is infatuated with your body. You deserve to be worshiped, woman!Fat chicks bang hot guys… ALL. THE. TIME.I know that hot is relative and all inclusive depending on who you chat with, but for these purposes, lets talk about the “universally attractive” kind of hot. Y’know, the kind fat chicks don’t deserve? We want to pretend that we don’t know what I’m talking about, but lets be real; we totally do. The fact that “fat chicks bang ‘hot’ guys” was one of the most powerful realizations I’ve had thus far. In line with the above paragraph, I knew that there would be someone that would find me attractive but the pool would be small (because of my body) and potentially full of guys I didn’t personally find sexy. So I would have to settle for anyone that would take me. After all, how could a conventionally gorgeous man (tall and with tattoos of course) like fat chicks?  Weh-he-hell, let me tell you somethin’: through various sites, events, parties, and corner store meetings, I found myself with over a hundred men who were champing at the bit to get with this. I was the one who had to sift through and pick the hottest of the hot. Ladies, over a hundred. “Girls” showed what society thinks about that when Hannah’s character has a weekend romance with an attractive and wealthy doctor. People flipped their shit. “Patrick Wilson is so hot he would never do Lena Dunham” was the most eye catching. Wilson’s wife responded to that rubbish here, but the tweet speaks volumes about what the majority of people think unconventional women deserve. Jesus christ, it’s annoying. I won’t spill the details of my bedroom coming and goings, but lets just say this: the hottest guys in Tucson and I get along just fine. I would recommend reading Emily’s article on xoJane for a better explanation of what I’m struggling to say. Know this: the myth that “atypical” bodies can’t be paired with “typically attractive” bodies is false. Women need to know that all bodies can be paired with all bodies.Riding during sex will NOT collapse his insides. Just trust me on this one, what you fear is totally false. Here’s a great article that changed my life.Wearing whatever you want is a political statement. Join the revolution. Throw style rules out the window. Wear the tutu. Wear the horizontal stripes. Wear the turquoise skinny jeans. Wear the see-through blouse. Wear the bikini. Wear the sweat pants. Wear the shirt that says “Does this shirt make me look fat?”. Wear whatever it is that makes you happy. This is your life.You are fucking beautiful. I’m saying this with a straight face and seriously meaningful look where I maintain eye contact for an uncomfortable amount of time. I know you don’t feel like you fit into the category of gorgeous that our world creates. I know that its hard. I know that its a daily battle. But fuck their fascist beauty standards. The second you stop looking for a skinny model in your mirror and start looking at YOU… is the second you will start to appreciate what you are. Stop looking for flaws. Stop looking for differences. You are perfect. You are more than enough. You are the best thing that has ever happened to you. And you are fucking beautiful.Say it with me.

I’m actively sobbing.

Reblogging again because of awesomeness.

I can’t even handle this right now.

True. All of it. (And hi, I’m working on being more accepting of my upper arms, because I want to wear sleeveless things this summer.)

Tbh this made me feel so much better about myself and I’m not even considered fat by society. Thank you for this. Really.

First off, she is not fat. Second, I do love love loveee this. This is the kind of stuff I need to hear and be reminded of…and unfortunately, so do a bunch of other people. This really is wonderful.

To the last comment… the girl in the picture is fat by modern societal standards, but she’s also beautiful and sexy, and that’s the whole point of the post. Fat isn’t a bad word unless used as an insult. 

sexualchemistry:

leannthepotatoloverthings:

gothiccharmschool:

losertakesall:

ilikeprettyclothes:

fromcarouseltohair:

allyssumdays:

Everyone has rolls when they bend over. Everyone. Lets just get this out of the way right off the bat. In the last few months, I’ve had over 30 women ranging from rail thin to extra large naked in my bed and I would routinely ask them to hug their knees. You won’t believe this… ALL OF THEM HAD TUMMY ROLLS. Not one was exempt. Even my super fabulous professional model 6 foot tall and some amazing Katie had rolls. The stomach pictures turned into some of my favorite images from the project… so quit thinking they’re bad, and try accepting (dare I say embracing?) yours!

When people say “you’re gorgeous”, believe them. I tend not to, and it’s a cryin’ shame. When people genuinely compliment you, it’s because they really see it. Try to not dismiss their perspective as wrong and assume that you know better. They see all of you. We see our flaws. Believe them.

“Arm flab is embarrassing.” No its not, go fuck yourself. No, not you. The people who tell us that, silly.

You’re not stunning despite your body. You’re stunning because of your body. There is a distinct difference. I grew up in a culture that would deem “unattractive” women as “special spirits”. A degrading categorization that implied that the only thing worthwhile was whatever was inside. Well, yeah. We are all much much more than our bodies, but our bodies are a beautiful part of us too. Beauty comes from the inside AND the outside.  I am of the firm belief that every person is beautiful, and so this leaves the inside to be the part that is the most telling when it comes to true “beauty”.

A guy can pick you up off your feet, and it won’t break his back.  “Wait, whaaaaaa Jes? You’re full of shit.” Nope. This just happened to me for the first time in… six years? I’m considerably heavier than I was 6 years ago (like… 70 pounds heavier) and so when I ran up to my friend Eric for a hug and he picked me up with my heels in the air… it left me breathless. I had forgotten that it was possible; I had accepted a life void of being lifted. So exhilarating. Eric didn’t suffer any injuries and walked away unscathed.

You don’t need to exercise every day in order to feel better about yourself. Many believe that someone who’s fat needs to exercise as much as possible in order to prove that they’re committed to becoming “less fat”. As if accepting one’s body as is would be a sin, and that’s just silly. Yes, exercising has wonderful physical and mental benefits, but you don’t owe it to anyone else to make an effort to change your body unless you wanna. You do not have to alter yourself to be okay. Period.

You’re allowed to fall in love with yourself. I promise. This will be the scariest thing you will ever do, and that’s okay. It will also be the most amazing (albeit super gradual) experience you will ever have. It doesn’t make you narcissistic. It doesn’t make you vain. It is liberating in every form of the word.

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It’s also okay to have days where you don’t love yourself. Read this. No really. Read it. And then realize that we’ve grown up learning and internalizing that we are not okay our entire life. For me, that’s 26 years of self-hate indoctrination and brainwashing.  It’s going to take a lot longer than you think to reverse this thinking, and it’s definitely not going to happen overnight. Allow yourself to have “weak” days. Cry, mourn, sob, yell, throw things. Whichever. Then get up, brush yourself off, give the media the finger, and move forward because you’re a warrior.

Everyone’s boobs are uneven. If you have a lot of boobs, they might be way uneven.  Don’t stress. This is totally normal.

There are people who prefer large ladies. And I mean all sizes of large. I thought that my best bet in life was to find a partner who accepted my fat. Pause. Give me a minute to hang my head and shake it at myself. Not only are there people who adore “thick” women, but a LOT of them who prefer it. This eventually ends up in an interesting territory which Marianne talks about here, but the point that I’m trying to make goes back to the “despite vs because of” argument. Here is what you need to know: you do NOT need to settle for a lover who is “okay” with your body. You have the right (and millions of opportunities) to find someone who is infatuated with your body. You deserve to be worshiped, woman!

Fat chicks bang hot guys… ALL. THE. TIME.I know that hot is relative and all inclusive depending on who you chat with, but for these purposes, lets talk about the “universally attractive” kind of hot. Y’know, the kind fat chicks don’t deserve? We want to pretend that we don’t know what I’m talking about, but lets be real; we totally do. The fact that “fat chicks bang ‘hot’ guys” was one of the most powerful realizations I’ve had thus far. In line with the above paragraph, I knew that there would be someone that would find me attractive but the pool would be small (because of my body) and potentially full of guys I didn’t personally find sexy. So I would have to settle for anyone that would take me. After all, how could a conventionally gorgeous man (tall and with tattoos of course) like fat chicks?  Weh-he-hell, let me tell you somethin’: through various sites, events, parties, and corner store meetings, I found myself with over a hundred men who were champing at the bit to get with this. I was the one who had to sift through and pick the hottest of the hot. Ladies, over a hundred. “Girls” showed what society thinks about that when Hannah’s character has a weekend romance with an attractive and wealthy doctor. People flipped their shit. “Patrick Wilson is so hot he would never do Lena Dunham” was the most eye catching. Wilson’s wife responded to that rubbish here, but the tweet speaks volumes about what the majority of people think unconventional women deserve. Jesus christ, it’s annoying. I won’t spill the details of my bedroom coming and goings, but lets just say this: the hottest guys in Tucson and I get along just fine. I would recommend reading Emily’s article on xoJane for a better explanation of what I’m struggling to say. Know this: the myth that “atypical” bodies can’t be paired with “typically attractive” bodies is false. Women need to know that all bodies can be paired with all bodies.

Riding during sex will NOT collapse his insides. Just trust me on this one, what you fear is totally false. Here’s a great article that changed my life.

Wearing whatever you want is a political statement. Join the revolution. Throw style rules out the window. Wear the tutu. Wear the horizontal stripes. Wear the turquoise skinny jeans. Wear the see-through blouse. Wear the bikini. Wear the sweat pants. Wear the shirt that says “Does this shirt make me look fat?”. Wear whatever it is that makes you happy. This is your life.

You are fucking beautiful. I’m saying this with a straight face and seriously meaningful look where I maintain eye contact for an uncomfortable amount of time. I know you don’t feel like you fit into the category of gorgeous that our world creates. I know that its hard. I know that its a daily battle. But fuck their fascist beauty standards. The second you stop looking for a skinny model in your mirror and start looking at YOU… is the second you will start to appreciate what you are. Stop looking for flaws. Stop looking for differences. You are perfect. You are more than enough. You are the best thing that has ever happened to you. And you are fucking beautiful.

Say it with me.

I’m actively sobbing.

Reblogging again because of awesomeness.

I can’t even handle this right now.

True. All of it. (And hi, I’m working on being more accepting of my upper arms, because I want to wear sleeveless things this summer.)

Tbh this made me feel so much better about myself and I’m not even considered fat by society. Thank you for this. Really.

First off, she is not fat. Second, I do love love loveee this. This is the kind of stuff I need to hear and be reminded of…and unfortunately, so do a bunch of other people. This really is wonderful.

To the last comment… the girl in the picture is fat by modern societal standards, but she’s also beautiful and sexy, and that’s the whole point of the post. Fat isn’t a bad word unless used as an insult. 

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Anonymous asked: Do you really not touch without permission?

bridgemountain:

cutevictim:

fuckita11twice:

cutevictim:

sterndaddy:

derangedbabydoll:

If it means I never have to go through the ‘I’m disappointed’ chat then I’ll never ever touch myself ever again.

If you’re touching without permission (or, disobeying in general), then one of three things is happening:

  1. You’re acting out because you WANT to be punished.
  2. You’re not a very good submissive.
  3. He hasn’t inspired you to submit completely to him.

1. Stop.
2. Seriously, shut the fuck up.
3. What the fuck are you smoking?

How about this:

1. Submissives make mistakes because they are human, shocker.
2. Any dom who uses the term “bad submissive” is asking for a tire iron shoved down their throat.
3. Doms who are so obvious about their posturing are pretty fucking pathetic, like you’re basically acting like a whiny little kid trying to shit on someone else so you can make yourself look better and it’s just making you look like a big fucking piss baby.

I fucking hate tumblr doms.

There is such a thing as bad submissive’s but this is not one of the cases. also, i completely agree with your three explanations cutevictim just saying this isn’t a world of absolutes.

No, there isn’t. Submission in bdsm is about flirting with boundaries and as SOON as you imply there is an “incorrect” way to submit, you’re violating that person’s complete and total agency over how to give and retract consent. That’s unsafe bdsm. You cannot be a bad submissive. Any way you choose to submit is a correct way to submit. Not every dom has to like it or be into it, but that doesn’t make it incorrect. You can be a bad partner who happens to be a submissive, you can be an abusive partner who happens to be a submissive, but you cannot be a bad submissive because of how you submit. However you choose to hand over power is entirely and completely up to you and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise can shove it.

👏👏👏

All of this is important, except for the creepy Dom.

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baroniansmythe:

Some may look at this and see the man in a submissive or subservient role. Remember that being a Dominant means taking care of your submissive in every way, even little ways like fixing the strap her her shoe. To paraphrase a famous quote: You are never so Dominant as when you stoop to care for your submissive.

baroniansmythe:

Some may look at this and see the man in a submissive or subservient role. Remember that being a Dominant means taking care of your submissive in every way, even little ways like fixing the strap her her shoe. To paraphrase a famous quote: You are never so Dominant as when you stoop to care for your submissive.

(Source: thethirddeadlysin, via boundbutterfly)

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fawn-aoba asked: do you dislike / not care about non binary littles and caregivers ?

ddlgdoodles:

No, neither of those statements are true despite the gossip.

I’m going to use this post as a reference to any other future messages I get so I don’t have to repeat myself.

Let’s start of with the trans topic:

I have a lot of wonderful and very dear friends who are trans: I have one that I went to middle school with that went from being ftm, I have another that is just beginning to transition from mtf who I help out, and I have another who is genderqueer. I don’t discriminate. I have never and would never harass, bully, attack a trans person (or any person) because of who they are or what they’re feeling.

What I do have a problem with is the band wagon movement on Tumblr. Look around enough and you’ll come across teens hopping into because it’s what’s in. People strive to fit into categories and the trans community is becoming one. My problem with this is that you have a lot of teens, mainly girls, who are completely comfortable in their body yet use the trans card to make themselves seem special and oppressed. They take away from the fight that people who experience gender dysphoria and work hard to gain respect and have people acknowledge that what they feel is real.

There have been studies on transsexual individuals to determine what causes the dysphoria and from what I’ve read it ranges from abnormalities in the brain, hormones, and so on. However, I’ve had a hard time finding any studies or experiments on non-binary folks and how gender can flip-flop at will. Maybe I’m looking in the wrong spots or not searching the right things, and if someone has anything like that, I’d be more than happy to read it.

Caregivers:

Again, I don’t dislike or not care about Caregivers, I just don’t find it appropriate to use with my dynamic and overall, I feel it adds confusion as I’ve stated and explained before.

CG/l was originally the all inclusive term for DD/lg, thought up around last year by some folks on Tumblr and it caught on. I’m all for an all-inclusive title for the dynamic, but as of now, I feel that DD/lg works for me. It describes my dynamic and I do see it as an all inclusive term and so do many others who have taken part in the dynamic for decades. As Daddy pointed out, you don’t hear Mistress whining that Master/slave excludes them. It’s common knowledge that Mistress is another form of a Master. In my eyes, Mommy is another form of Daddy. They both hold on to the same goals and roles, just that the titles are different due to sex or gender.

What I see now is that CG/l has become its own dynamic away from DD/lg. What makes DD/lg different (aside from gender-assigned titles) is that it’s a D/s dynamic and it clearly states it - Daddy Dom, whereas CG/l drops that. All Doms are caregivers in one way or another, not just Daddies and Mommies. A lot of people have argued with me that DD/lg doesn’t work for them because their caregiver is not a Dom, which means that the dynamic in their relationship is solely based on an ageplay lifestyle, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But this where it brings in confusion. Say a newbie little follows CG/l blogs that are not D/s and eventually they find a Daddy Dom (not just a Daddy) and someone gets hurt. The little had different expectations of what the dynamic holds than what the Daddy thought. This can lead to Daddies who mean well being called abusive due to the confusion between ageplay/CGl/DDlg.

I’ve also seen people message me saying that they don’t identify with DD/lg (and prefer CG/l) because they call their “Daddy”/caregiver a different title such as Sir, Dada, Papi, Papa, etc. I also call my Daddy a handful of different titles but I still identify with DD/lg because I see no reason to create separate dynamics for each name I call him.

All-in-all, it’s not a term that I’ll be using but you’re free to call your dynamic whatever you want. I shouldn’t be forced to use CG/l if I don’t want to, and you shouldn’t be forced to use DD/lg if you don’t want to.

Love this post and it sums up my feelings on DD/lg as well. Honestly, people on Tumblr are so incredibly nitpicky about labels.

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revam1ss:

spazztastikim:

comebackxkid:

dynastylnoire:

insidehishead:

some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys
porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 

Ahahahaha KISS HER THERE YOU WALNUT!<3

revam1ss:

spazztastikim:

comebackxkid:

dynastylnoire:

insidehishead:

some of the most sensitive areas of the female body

look at all the regions that are not titties and vagina guys

porn has lied to you. there are other places you can touch that sensitive and pleasurable. 

Oh yeah because I’m just gonna rub her eyes until a she’s horny

Kiss her there you walnut! Use tenderness! Hold her face gently and stroke her eyelids with your thumb and then kiss them! Run your hands down to her neck when you do! THINK!!! Lordie, you have a lot to learn that TOUCH gives more than making her “horny” you’ll drive her nuts doing gentle stuff! It’s trust! It’s care! It’s sensitivity! *smacks your forehead* You want her to be numb in complete ecstasy! I know this shit and I’m ASEXUAL! 

Ahahahaha KISS HER THERE YOU WALNUT!


<3

(Source: biencorrect, via daddyboo-and-princessjess)